Monday, December 19, 2016

10 Rules to Avoid Passive Aggressive Parenting

Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 1: Make rules and keep a list.
This keeps kids from having to guess what the rules are in different situations, and you are less likely to have negotiations about changing the rules when you’re in a time crunch.

Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 2: Say “no” when you mean “no.”
Be honest about your reasons for making decisions. Don’t try to blame your decisions on outside factors.


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 3: Don’t make decisions for your kids and tell them that it’s their own decision.
Don’t force them into accepting your words as their own. If you’re making a decision for them, then own it. Forcing them to accept your words as their own is setting them up for a life time of doing what others want. Instead, they should be making their real feelings known. You want them to be able to say no to peer pressure.


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 4: Don’t avoid conflict.
Avoiding conflict is not always a bad thing, but continually sweeping issues aside will only create resentment between you and your kids. It can also make them give up on you altogether.


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 5: Don’t make kids responsible for your feelings.
You can be honest about how you’re feeling, but if kid’s are taking care of their parents, when do they get to be kids?


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 6: Ask them to set expectations for themselves.
Pushing your own expectations, and ignoring who they are will not inspire them to succeed, but make them feel like they’re failing you. Ask them what they expect of themselves instead.


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 7: Listen to your kids.
Listen, especially when they are trying to tell you something that is difficult for them. Pretending you didn’t hear it, or changing the subject, won’t make difficult topics go away. Your kids will be forced to navigate the topic without you.


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 8: Don’t tell them not to feel angry.
Everyone feels anger once in a while. Teach them to manage their anger, and express their feelings without acting disrespectful. They can yell into a pillow, hit a pillow or take a cool down period.


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 9: Don’t criticize the friends that you don’t like.
Don’t make up excuses about why they can’t see their friend. Acknowledge why they think X is fun, but be up front about your expectations of heightened supervision when they hang out together.


Passive aggressive parenting avoidance rule 10: Never break a promise if you can help it.
This will not only set an example of how to follow through with commitments, but they will also know that your word means something.


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